Ending the Drama

Ending the Drama

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the tumultuous relationship between the biological mother and her daughter, and I’ve come to a decision. I will be the one to put an end to this constant drama. It’s clear that these people have tried to tear apart my family and myself, but I refuse to engage in their destructive behavior any longer. It was difficult in the past when I cut off contact with the biological mother for 12 years, and although we have had some encounters since then, social media wasn’t as prevalent back then as it is now in today’s world.

Despite my words, I know that neither of them will change their behavior. However, we all have our own lives to live and we refuse to let their drama invade it. We don’t care about what happens in their lives, but we do hope that they face consequences for the lies and harm they’ve caused. I recently spoke to a preacher about the situation and showed him the posts and my responses to them, including when my daughter’s and grandchildren were attacked by these people. He was appalled and asked where these people attended church because their behavior was not in line with Christian values. I agreed, explaining the patterns of the biological mother’s claims about money being cut off, which never actually happened.

In 2018-2019, my husband went through congestive heart failure and COPD due to secondhand smoke, causing us financial strain as he was unable to work. The biological mother and her husband offered to help us during this time, but I was hesitant due to past experiences with her lying about similar situations. My husband reassured me that things had changed and urged me to accept their help. They paid off our car loan, and bankruptcy payments, and even replaced our leaky roof which was causing black mold. This is the only instance where we accepted money from them. We did ask if we could borrow $4800 for a down payment on our current home, promising to make payments to them in return. I kept all records of payments made through Paypal and Cashapp, except for one instance where I paid $200 in cash and did not receive a receipt from the biological mother who spent it all at Walmart. When she refinanced her house and paid off all her debts, including our loan, she gave us a Christmas card stating that the loan was paid in full along with a $100 cash gift which made me uneasy knowing how the biological mother operates.

What’s truly unfortunate about this situation is that multiple people were dragged into it, all in an attempt to harm my family. But their efforts failed; we are a resilient bunch and have overcome similar attacks from the biological mother and her daughter in the past. One thing I can say about my family is that we have never had any cases of child abuse or neglect, never had anyone involved in gangs or committed murder. The list could go on, but it’s pointless now. Is my family perfect? No, we’ve all made mistakes and learned from them. My children gained valuable experience by working during their teenage years and developed a strong sense of responsibility. They now own homes, and cars, and manage their finances without my assistance because they are responsible adults who take care of their families. What I cannot comprehend is how some people feel justified in making false reports to government and state offices to come after others. And let me make it clear: We’ve already checked with the proper authorities, and false reports do not end well for those who make them. No one has shown up so there is that part.

Moving forward, my blog will focus solely on product & movie reviews. I no longer want to waste my time addressing the ongoing drama between the biological mother and her daughter. They are not worth our attention or energy. I have always been truthful in sharing my experiences, with no reason to fabricate anything. In addition, I am joining an organization that supports children who have experienced abuse from their parents, step-parents, grandparents, or friends. It is important to put an end to the cycle of harm inflicted upon innocent children. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse myself, I have been victimized further by the biological mother and her daughter’s shaming and disbelief. But the truth remains: no child should ever be made to feel responsible for the actions of their abuser. It has taken me many years to overcome the shame and guilt instilled in me by my abuser and enabler. The only closure I needed was for the stepfather to admit what he had done before his death, and that has now been accomplished. I share my story in hopes of empowering other survivors to speak out and seek help. Unless you have personally experienced childhood sexual abuse, it is impossible to understand the lasting impact it has on a person’s life. We carry deep scars that affect everything from our self-image to our intimate relationships. But through therapy and self-care, I have learned that it was never my fault; it was solely the fault of those who abused and betrayed my trust as a child.

I want to also add that these same people are continuing to stalk my website from July 4, 2024, to July 20, 2024, at 2:32pm. Now mind you I haven’t posted anything on my Facebook or my website till tonight when I got a notification about the visits. Now when this goes to court it will show the continued harassment and stalking online that they have been doing. Like I said the tracers on my website show everything down to the address and device with the IMEI number so there won’t be any mistakes on the Android 12 that is being used. Not only that she is clicking on the link on my Facebook and that shows the external link she used to get to my website so that shows that she is still trolling and harassing me even though I haven’t posted anything on my Facebook or website about them. Like I said when it goes before the court system it definitely won’t look good on them because both of them are still harassing and posting about my youngest daughter. They have continued the drama with my daughters boyfriend’s Ex-wife and creating more drama. What they don’t realize is all the pain and stress they have caused bringing his ex-wife in on the drama they can all be sued for damages. I thought about something all the times the biological mother dumped her youngest daughter on me during my first marriage and my second marriage I think I should ask for all compensation for my time while watching her kid so she could run up and down the roads, working, shopping or just because she wanted to ride around and not come home and get her kid. Also, it’s funny even her youngest son talks pure crap about her on social media. The funny thing about all this is she is 40 years old and never raised either of her children but is pregnant with another child but doesn’t work lives off her mother and stalks me and my daughter SMDH! I hope she loses that child!

Moving forward, all posts regarding the biological mother, her daughter, and my stepfather will be set as private. I am grateful for the support I have received and I hope you will continue to read my product and movie reviews.

Disclaimer: I was not compensated for this post. However, I received a free product(s) in exchange for my honest review.  All opinions expressed in my blog or review are 100% of Laurali’s Blog